Yesterday we had a big discussion (at work, among the cubicals) about linguistic relativism. I apparently am unable to defend why I think people should strive for good diction and writing skills. The implication there being that some ways of talking/writing are better than others. This really gets linguists' dander up, incurring lots of anecdotal reasons why that's a terrible way to think.
Perhaps I'm only upset about this because I feel like I "lost" the debate we were having. :) I don't like losing. And John is one of those people who (like me) likes to argue, and just has to win. He didn't get my sympathy or win my respect towards his position, so I felt like fighting, not like listening to what he was saying. (Which, on a side note, is why I want to learn how to not get involved in true debates. I enjoy them while they last, but they never go anywhere; no one is really listening to the other person, we're just trying to shoot down their logic. How is that helpful in the end?)
Back to the topic at hand: I think that proper grammar, good spelling, and good diction are all things to strive for.
A descriptive linguist, though, would say that there is no "better" anything. Language evolves, and the differences we live with now are just different dialects. That what I consider to be good grammar would be atrocious and unreadable to someone from 200 years ago; therefore, language is constantly evolving and we just need to go with the flow. Whether that's the changes that have occurred since Old English, or the current predilection to use Netspeak in all areas of life, it's all equal and should be allowed to happen. If you say that one dialect (standard English over African American vernacular English, for example) is to be worked towards, you're saying one is better than the other, which is wrong. In terms of grammar, there's also the whole "We just stole a bunch of rules from Latin, why should we be using those?" argument.
I basically get the arguments, and I admit that if you don't agree with them you're sort of a horrible person.
But is it so bad to have a standard (within a given country/language) for the common way to use it?
I suppose this comes down, in the end, to my views on democracy. I just don't trust the mob to make good decisions. Or I guess I should say, I don't trust what is *popular* to be right.
One other thing; I dislike that people have such small vocabularies these days. We have so many nice words that will slowly become extinct because people don't know what they mean anymore. Is this just the facts of language shift and I need to accept it? Because I can't help but think that the educated people of the last few centuries were much more educated that our educated people. That is, we don't use our brains as effectively as they did in a lot of ways, and I feel we can only be worse off for that. No wonder our country has such problems...
Basically, I'm more of a prescriptive linguist, who can't defend her stance or feelings against the descriptive camp.
Any thoughts? Rebuttals? Advice?